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Seizing the “Catch-Up” Day to Keep up with the Busy: Did You Schedule it?

file foldersGiven that we all lead very different lives, we all have our own kind of “busy” to manage.  Whether it’s accumulated e-mails, phone calls to return, filing, bill-paying, or scheduling, these are all things that require our eventual attention.

So, what’s your “catch-up” day?  Or do you even have one?

From time to time, we all get back-logged with life in general.  How we choose to “catch up” is clearly personal.  You may have loose ends to tie up at the close of a week, or you may be managing what I refer to as,  weekend residue. You know what I’m talking about, it’s that kind of leftover “clean-up” after a busy and hectic weekend that you avoid tackling. And then there’s everything else in between, right?

The day you prefer to “catch up” with yourself  is really irrelevant.  The key is to “schedule” it to happen or it likely won’t happen at all.

Starting a new week with a clean slate feels great.  For me, I tend to “catch up” with myself on Sunday nights. At an early age, I was programmed to organize and prepare for school (no surprise how I inherited the organizing gene, lol).  It punctuated the end of the weekend, and a start of a new week ahead. This usually meant dinner at home and early to bed. It was a time to gather, clean up, and shift my focus.  I raised my children in the same way and although it was an unpopular job, I chose to be the enforcer of these dreaded practices.

My children are grown now and although I no longer have to micro-manage their routines,  I’m still a creature of habit.  Sunday nights sometimes still feel like “school nights,” and admittedly, they trigger some adolescent anxiety of “Sunday Night Stress” of years ago. I have tried to change it up a little and “catch up” during the daytime, and opt to go out to dinner or even catch a movie. I’ve noticed that those nights feel very different.  It stretches the weekend and relaxes me before a stressful week.  Have to be honest here, while the idea is great, these opportunities are few and far between on a cold winter’s night.  I’m just as happy to declare Sunday a snuggle and catch-up day and never the leave the house at all!

Funny that as routine-oriented that I am, Summertime brings on a whole new energy and so my “catch up” days are not as fixed.  With the longer days, I feel more flexible with my schedule and break down the “catch-ups” differently.  Since I love to be outside,  I prefer the “catch-ups” that can be mobile;  the opportunity to do so outside by poolside is way more enticing than a mandatory lock down inside.  Less stressful and equally productive 🙂 I opt to save the paperwork and housekeeping for a rainy day or evening.

What seems to be abundantly clear is that we all need a day or two to “catch up” in order to “keep up” with our busy lives.  If we fail to do so, things will surely pile up and then we are in danger of chasing our tails.  Overwhelm can easily ensue.  “Keeping up” is really about maintaining a healthy life-balance that will keep our stress level down.

I have polled this question to many friends and colleagues, and have gotten a myriad of responses.  My findings were that those who work from home, or not all, a significant number of people prefer Mondays as their “catch-up” day. What’s yours? Do you have a “catch -up ” strategy to share?

 

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Habits Worth Breaking: 9 Symptoms of a Bad Routine

Do you find yourself repeating the same bad behavior?  Are you stuck in bad routines? There is something oddly comforting about sticking with the same old routine, albeit a poor one.  We simply don’t have the time to analyze our every day so we merely continue to repeat the old and familiar patterns.

Ahhh…imagine if we only had the time.  Think for a moment about the possibilities of making the time to change the habits that are no longer working for you.

If you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed with your life schedule, maybe you can identify with the following likely symptoms of a bad routine.

1.  Your morning routine is actually not a routine.  No 2 days are alike.

2. Most mornings you feel rushed and continually search for the same items prior to exiting your house.

3. Typically, you are jumping in for a quick shower instead of enjoying a leisurely one, and time to gather your thoughts for the day.

4.  The kitchen sink seems to be always full of dirty dishes and the dishwasher is always full of clean dishes, not emptied.

5.  Your solution for not hanging up your clothes is failing because every back of a chair, banister, couch, and treadmill is already over-utilized.

6.  You don’t ever schedule a meal.  Hence you eat whatever, whenever.

7.  You don’t have time time for the things you enjoy because you are too busy with the “have-to’s”.

8.  Coming home at the end of the day, you feel a more heightened sense of anxiety, rather than a place of sanctuary.

9.  Increased tension by the end of every week.

Of course if these are your routines and they work for you, by all means, stay with it.  No need to fix what’s not broken.

But if you are frustrated and unhappy with your daily routine, you must make it a priority to implement some change.

    • Can you eliminate one thing you do every day that is counterproductive?
    • Can you find a way to make a “have-to” more enjoyable?
    • Can you modify the way you manage your time?

All routines have a time-management component and so if any of these symptoms resonate with you, it’s time to adjust how you use your time.  Here’s the simple tip;  Always allow yourself more time for everything. It is an effective stress reducer.

    • Think about your day the night before.  Prepare.  Do something that will make the next day run more smoothly.
    • Rise earlier, more wiggle room.  Time to breathe.  Have the nice long hot shower.  Make the time for a healthy breakfast.
    • Have a plan for the day.  Follow through the entire day, including meals.  It could mean defrosting necessary food, purchasing ingredients for the dinner menu, or making a reservation!  It doesn’t really matter what the plan is, just have one.
    • At the end of your day, hang up the clothing immediately because they won’t hang up on their own.  They will still be there tomorrow and beyond.  Avoid letting them accumulate.  Ditto to the dishes.

It’s a goodhabit to change bad behavior.  Give yourself a break today and break a bad habit.

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Shhh…Mum’s the Word: Everyday is Mother’s Day!

Don’t beat yourself for not being Martha Stewart.  So what if your condiments and spices aren’t alphabetized and arranged in size order. Big deal if you don’t excel in cooking, baking, crafting, planting, and redecorating?

If a hectic day encumbers you from cooking a hearty family dinner, order in the pizza (but without the guilt!) The kids will be just as happy, if not happier. It doesn’t make you a bad Mom if you’re not greeting the kids after school, adorned with a Betty Crocker apron, and a batch of freshly baked cookies.

But the one thing that these revered women have mastered and you might want to emulate is, being more organized.   Motherhood demands it, and not just in the kitchen.

Being a Mom is both the hardest and most rewarding job you will ever have.   It’s also a job that is never done.  The schedule of a busy Mom can be grueling.  It’s so hard to balance motherhood with the daily stresses, being attentive to every one’s needs and keeping the house organized too.

Initially, you probably have all good intentions to be the quintessential Mom but your chaotic schedule, all too often, gets in the way and wears you down.  A busy household has a myriad of activities going on simultaneously, and it’s understandable when things spin out of control. It doesn’t seem to matter how old the kids are; a busy house is still a busy house.  The chaos can create messy piles ranging from diapers and toys, to video games and sneaker piles.

Being able to find what you need when you need to, is the essence of being organized.  Use it as a vital tool to manage your busy household.  Warning: Don’t go for perfect, it’s far too an ideal to strive for and don’t beat yourself up for never getting there.  Be who you are, don’t change you.  Just modify those habits that are tripping you up and causing you anxiety. Sometimes it’s about changing the little things that reduce a lot of the stress.

Here’s a helpful tip:

Before bed, think about what the next day looks like and jot down the logistics and time frames of the day’s schedule.  Evaluate where you have to be and when.  Is it your turn to carpool? Do you need to pack snacks to go because you will be on the run all day? Make a list of phone calls that you will need to make and prepare a doable to do list. Organize your day before you begin the day.

Try changing one routinely task that takes up more time than you’d like, and implement a way to do it faster.  Cut out a step.  It might be making the kid’s lunch, preparing the school knapsack, or planning their outfit the night before.  Eliminate the morning battles.

Think more efficient with less effort. Streamlining the daily process will save you time and give you more time to breathe. And while you’re at it, give yourself a well-deserved hug! Happy Mother’s Day to all 🙂

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Attention All Moms: Give Yourself a Hug!

Don’t beat yourself for not being Martha Stewart.  So what if your condiments and spices aren’t alphabetized and arranged in size order. Big deal if you don’t excel in cooking, baking, crafting, planting, and redecorating?

If a hectic day encumbers you from cooking a hearty family dinner, order in the pizza (but without the guilt!) The kids will be just as happy, if not happier. It doesn’t make you a bad Mom if you’re not greeting the kids after school, adorned with a Betty Crocker apron, and a batch of freshly baked cookies.

But the one thing that these revered women have mastered and you might want to emulate is, being more organized.   Motherhood demands it, and not just in the kitchen.

Being a Mom is both the hardest and most rewarding job you will ever have.  The schedule of a busy Mom can be grueling.  It’s so hard to balance motherhood with the daily stresses, being attentive to every one’s needs and keeping the house organized too.

Initially, you probably have all good intentions to be the quintessential Mom but your chaotic schedule, all too often, gets in the way and wears you down.  A busy household has a myriad of activities going on simultaneously, and it’s understandable when things spin out of control. It doesn’t seem to matter how old the kids are; a busy house is still a busy house.  The chaos can create messy piles ranging from diapers and toys, to video games and sneaker piles.

Being able to find what you need when you need to, is the essence of being organized.  Use it as a vital tool to manage your busy household.  Warning: Don’t go for perfect, it’s far too an ideal to strive for and don’t beat yourself up for never getting there.  Be who you are, don’t change you.  Just modify those habits that are tripping you up and causing you anxiety. Sometimes it’s about changing the little things that reduce a lot of the stress.

Here’s a tip: Before bed, think about what the next day looks like and jot down the logistics and time frames of the day’s schedule.  Evaluate where you have to be and when.  Is it your turn to carpool? Do you need to pack snacks to go because you will be on the run all day? Make a list of phone calls that you will need to make and prepare a doable to do list. Organize your day before you begin the day.

Try changing one routinely task that takes up more time than you’d like, and implement a way to do it faster.  Cut out a step.  It might be making the kid’s lunch, preparing the school knapsack, or planning their outfit the night before.  Eliminate the morning battles.

Think more efficient with less effort.  Streamlining the daily process will save you time and give you more time to breathe.  And while you’re at it, give yourself a well-deserved hug! Happy Mother’s Day to all 🙂

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