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Brushing Up Your Routines: How to Stop Chores From Growing Into Huge Projects

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Being organized and staying organized might seem unfeasible in a busy household, but if you can distinguish a chore from a non-negotiable routine, you will be surprised with the time-saving results. When we change the way we think about our routines, maintaining our “busy” lives can be more manageable.

Approach home-life organization as you would your personal hygiene.  Do you shower daily?  Do you brush your teeth every morning and at bedtime? I think we can all agree that these are two things we do routinely every day.  It’s not only a healthy practice, it’s a dedicated daily ritual, right?  We find the time to make sure it happens.

Everything else we want to do in a single day spills onto some grandiose list for each of us to do, which sometimes never gets done at all.

I’ve coined the brush your teeth model as the guideline to help my client’s manage their life-organization. Brushing your teeth is not something you schedule, it is something that you just do.  Even moreso, these two times of day punctuate both the start and finish of any given day. So why not use this model as a consistent reminder to check in with yourself? It’s that rare time that you must stop and pause, at the beginning and end of your day. Here’s how to take advantage of this ritual;

1. In the morning, brush your teeth and brush up your productivity.  

Use this time to do one thing that will make your “later” easier.  This should only take you 5-10 minutes. Add this wiggle room into your your designated morning routine every single day. Maybe throw in the laundry, empty the sink, load or unload the dishwasher. Clear a counter. Pre-sort the mail in categories to save you time later.  Set the table for dinner.  Perhaps keep an empty bin handy, and do a quick sweep in the den. Return items back to their designated homes or just corral them in the bin to clear spaces. Deconstructing these annoying chores to a day-to-day practice will prevent them from accumulating into a bigger weekly chore.

The reality is that when neglected daily, these chores can mount into way bigger projects.  Paper piles grow taller, busy hubs become too cluttered, dirty dishes litter sinks, and hampers get overflown with an insurmountable of laundry.

When to-do’s get too big, they are simply not approachable. You’d be surprised how a cluster of just 15 minutes of preparation can ultimately save you exponential time later. Jump starting the task can be very effective.

2. In the evening,  brush your teeth and brush away tomorrow’s potential mistakes.

Before you go to bed, sync your schedule and calendars so they align. So often, we jot down appointments on scribbled notes, put reminders on our phones, but fail to write it down on our paper or virtual calendars.  Too often, important dates fall through the cracks and we miss important events and appointments.  This is great opportunity to organize the next day. Collect your thoughts, write down a doable plan for the day. Maybe a plan for the week is too big.  Keep it simple. Think about what has to get done tomorrow. Trust me, you will sleep more soundly knowing exactly what the next day will look like.

No doubt, maintaining a busy household and lifestyle requires attention.  It cannot and will not run smoothly all by itself.  Sustainable organization can be achieved with just a small change of a dedicated routine. Find the time to tend to your home, schedule, and things, as you would to brush your teeth. It’s as imperative. A healthy life-balance requires it.

Brushing up on these skills every morning and every night will keep things under control.  Consider breaking down some of your weekly chores into daily routines, it will improve your life in countless ways.

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Are You Growing? How To Strengthen the Personal Change Muscle

spring flowers_optThis time of year nature is festooned with such spectacular color. Flowers embellish the landscape everywhere.  Ahh, nothing like a June bloom.  I’m captivated and still surprised with each day I notice yet another flower has bloomed.  My flower pots are thriving, the lawn is lush, and everything seems to be growing.  Outside.  I wonder if your insides feel the same way.  Pay attention.  Are you actively changing or do you feel stagnant?

Everyone has an inner voice, but not everyone listens to it.  It’s yours and personal.  You don’t have to ever share it, but you can certainly learn from it.  Possibly, the take-aways may even make you a better you.

Whether you’re in great place or in an overwhelming one, it’s still important to check in with yourself. Consider these steps as a helpful exercise to activate your listening skills and invite personal growth.

1. Stop.  Make the time to pause from the daily busy and step away.  Putting space between self and world can provide a fresh perspective.

2. Solitude.  Being alone can be very cathartic and necessary to feel what you need to feel and think.  Solitude doesn’t necessarily have to mean quiet time, just alone time.  So feel free to ramp up the music if that ignites deeper thinking.  Solitude is good for the soul, it works for me 🙂

3. Truth.  You know what you know.  Be honest with yourself.  Otherwise, who would you be fooling?  Think about what’s going right with your life and address what is not.  Identify and clarify the changes you feel.

4. The Whys.  This could be the piece that could give you more trouble, for sure.  We all have patterns that we may not be skilled in evaluating, and so repeating bad behaviors is often a common culprit.  Self analysis is neither easy or typically accurate.  Enlisting help from a friend or professional can often give you the objectivity you might need.  And if things are going great, acknowledge the whys too.  There are life lessons learned from both our failures and successes.

5. The Work.  What needs to change?  What will motivate you to change? Are you ready?  Life will inevitably change, but personal change won’t be actualized unless you’re part of the process.  You need to do the work.

6.  The Training.  Just like with fitness and exercise, some of us can work out on our own and routinely get to the gym.  But not everyone is self-disciplined.  Others need a one-on-one trainer to help maintain focus and do much better with more motivational support.  Pay close attention to which option suits you best.

The truth is that when you don’t know where to begin, it’s so difficult to take that first step.  Implementing change seems unfeasible.  And if it gets too hard, you are likely to give up entirely.  Hiring a trainer or coach/professional might be the ideal accountability partner you may need to sustain you.  Or perhaps it’s just the “push” that you’ll need to get started.

7.  The Reward.  Without question, listening to self is a very difficult skill to master. Practicing this step will help strengthen the personal change muscle.  It can be an eye-opening experience and a powerful motivator for personal growth.

Asking the right questions can open up opportunities for positive personal change.  Answering them will start the journey and make them a reality.

 

 

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