I’m definitely a “people” person. In fact, I love being with all kinds of people, most of the time. It’s my nature to be extroverted and I’m very comfortable drumming up a conversation with just about anyone, lol. But, (and this is a big “but”) I also love and value my time… alone.
I’m not referring to an imposed day-off for personal beauty indulgences (also very important), I’m talking about a couple of hours of solitude; just “me” connecting with “me.” Whenever I feel overloaded with life schedules and demands, and my head feels cloudy, I lose my focus. It’s then that I know I need some quality time by myself to restore my life-balance.
We probably all need periods of solitude but I think it’s a very personal exercise. Solitude means something different for each one of us. Connecting to “self” puts exclusive attention on oneself. Some of us embrace it, while others avoid it, and still others are just not able to self examine at all.
Today was my solitude day, and so I planned for a few quiet hours with myself. The weather was stellar, the opportunity was knocking. With paper and pen, off I went to my happy place by the marina. There’s a quaint little town near my house overlooking the harbor that I love to go to. It’s where I can sit by the pier and look at the serene landscape and appreciate the beauty of nature. The moment you approach, you can instantly feel the quiet and stillness. Today, even the docked boats were still, and the water so calm with barely a ripple. Surrounded by this tranquility, it was easy for me to shut down from the mundane. Oddly, it was the hush that “woke” up my senses.
Being alone does not imply that you are alone, it’s a choice. When we are alone with our thoughts, it’s honest. There’s no pretense. No distractions. Just you with yourself . Go deeper. It’s a time to know ourselves and regain perspective.
Sometimes solitude is a time for reflection and soul searching, but other times it’s just the simple enjoyment of the moment. There is peace in solitude. Getting lost in thought, devoid of any conversation, is so liberating. Embrace the quiet. It inspires. The perfect setting for an empowering epiphany.
“Solitude suggests peacefulness stemming from a state of inner richness. It is a means of enjoying the quiet and whatever it brings that is satisfying and from which we draw sustenance. It is something we cultivate. Solitude is refreshing; an opportunity to renew ourselves. It replenishes us.”– Hara Marano
It’s a great idea to schedule both time for yourself and with yourself. There’s a difference, don’t you think?