While shopping for a Hallmark birthday card today, I was thumbing through the humorous section searching for the perfect card and when my hand grazed over the infamous belated zone, and I was struck with the irony of it all. It just occurred to me that the origin of such a category was designed to address and classify the disorganized individual.
The creator of the belated card had to have thought about a person who consistently either forgets a special birthday, anniversary,etc. or perhaps remembers but never gets it together to actually buy a card or send it. Imagine…Hallmark has provided for the guy/gal who messed up, and is capitalizing on the idea that there are people who have failed to organize the special milestone events in their family and friend’s lives. Moreover, the mere gesture of sending the belated card is screaming out that you are indeed guilty of such a charge. I can’t believe that it is a proud thing to declare; “Yes, I totally forgot all about you on your special day.” How embarrassing, really.
It’s silly enough that there is a barrage of other occasion cards for every kind of relationship imaginable; like “Happy Mother’s Day to my neighbor’s cousin” or “Happy Birthday to our dog”, but forgetting the special day altogether is sending an alert to remind the person that you actually forgot!
Truthfully, a belated card when it is received is one that you surely don’t want to save and cherish. Once the day passes and the celebration is over, does receiving a card days later even have the same significance?
So do yourself and your relationships a favor, keep records of the special days of your loved one’s lives. Implement reminders on your phone, computer, and calendars. Make a habit of buying an assortment of occasion cards at the start of every month so you’ll be prepared and have them on hand when you need them. Don’t be caught short. Sending a card on time is a small thing that means so very much.
At the risk of sounding sappy, a celebratory card sent and received on the actual day does speak to how important that person is to you. Simply said, it simply means that you thought about them on their special day. Everybody wants to be thought of, even if you personally don’t need that kind of attention Be fearful of sending belated cards often, it might become a reputation hard to shed.
Strive to be more organized in this regard and you’ll be appreciated for your thoughtfulness. Guaranteed, it will come back to you. Goodness and respect always return the favor.